I'm not ready for kids

My girlfriend will be so ecstatic to read this blog post. But I am not ready for kids, there you go babe! I said it.My cousins are staying at my house this week. I am Greek and therefore have many cousins so let me elaborate. My aunt (my mother's sister) has three kids. Two girls, 14 and 16, and one boy - a laatlammetjie - who is 3.I have blogged about them before I do believe, have a read if you like.Alex seems to think that he can do what he pleases being the youngest of the lot. And more often than not it seems as though he manages to get away with it all! Not when I'm around, not when he's throwing things at my Mac. No one messes with the Mac.And right there and right then I realised that I am not ready for children. The scariest part of the thought process is knowing that at my age (23) my mother had me and me brother already and was running a household. No way, not a chance, thanks but no thanks.I am sure that it's different when it is actually your kids and don't get me wrong, I love my cousins dearly and would do anything for them and to protect them, but wow, I am not ready for kids.The house is a shambles, there are more toys on the floor than tiles in my house. There are clothes everywhere, the house pangs with the scent of teenage hormones and the female presence is now overriding the male presence in my house. This is not a usual situation for me as I am used to having one female for every three males in my house. It is now the other way round. Too much for me thank you.But again, I am sure that it's different when it's your kid that is making a mess of things because then you are obligated and responsible to clean up their mess whether you like it or not. I am not and happily so. Thank you very much I'll be wise and I'll condomise, I suggest you do the same if you agree with me on this one!

Pregnancy Bullshit

So I was chatting to Jen-Jen-Jen just now the kids issue came up some how. She said she never wants children and I called bullshit. This is not, I repeat, not a sexist post or statement in any way shape or form. I am arguing for freedom of choice here 100%. However I believe that when two people are together it is necessary to know that the option of having kids is available. If I am told straight out by any woman I'm with that kids are not ever, ever going to happen then her and I will never, ever happen. I might never have kids with anyone. My life might get in the way of things, I might find myself to become incapable of caring for children, there are a billion reasons I might not have kids. But there is one that overrides all the others, love. If you love the person you are with then children is the ultimate expression of the love that you share with your partner.I know that there are a million counter arguments to this; gay couples, infertile couples etc etc etc. But these couple can and do adopt children to express their love and foster children. If I am given the gift and the choice then I will take it with both arms wide open. And so would you if the circumstance was right.

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